The subject of love and the attainment of a happy relationship has been a challenge that human beings have faced since ancient times. Century after century passes, with new and different methods of addressing relationships coming into the fold and then going away, one after the other. Certain methodologies are used for a while and seem to prove to be effective. However, other methods then develop and replace them due to a change in the times or due to older methods no longer being as workable as they once were.
Couples therapy or couples counseling are simply defined as any type of methodology that seeks to address the trials and tribulations of couples everywhere, no matter what those difficulties may be. For some history on mankind’s efforts to address relationship troubles, this really took off in the United States in the 1930s. At that time, it was called Marriage Counseling and was reserved for married couples or those engaged to be married. At that time and for decades following, the main approach was for the therapist or counselor to see each partner separately.
In the 1960s and 1970s when divorce rates started to rise, conjoint couples sessions emerged as being much more common, which is how most relationship coaching occurs today. In this approach, both partners meet with a professional and communicate, share, and work together as a team to innovate solutions to their problems.
When and Why Relationship Coaching Is Used
Couples seek help through coaching for a number of different reasons such as:
- Power struggles within the relationship
- Communication difficulties
- Misalignment of goals and purposes
- Sexual disappointment
- Financial problems
- Familial problems
- Major differences of opinion
- Disagreements on morality and ethics
- Substance abuse problems
- Differences of belief systems
The list continues on and on. Anything that is important or significant in life can qualify as something that couples could struggle with. If it is a major life issue, then couples can end up having problems within their relationship because of it.
Studies show that couples do not usually seek help until about six years after the problems begin, which is unfortunate because the more time that passes since the inception of a problem, the harder it will be to address that problem. Generally speaking though, there are four different scenarios under which a couple will seek outside help or coaching to address their relationship:
- The couple has been together for some time, have had a problem or problems in an area or areas of the relationship, and have been unable to address it on their own. This is probably the most common scenario in which couples seek out coaching.
- Another scenario is called Premarital Coaching, and as the name suggests, occurs when a couple that is about to get married meets with a relationship coach. This is done so that the couple can explore areas of difficulty or concern that they may already be having that might develop into something more serious later on in their marriage. This is a great way to address these issues sooner rather than later and to actually work with the coach to plan out some of the goals, personal values, expectations, and ground rules of the marriage.
- One other scenario is when a marriage is on the rocks yet the couple seeks help to salvage it. Marital Coaching is then used to clear up the trouble and repair the marriage
- Finally, there is the scenario of a marriage that is at a point of no return. The couple is seeking divorce yet wishes to separate amicably and respectfully. To accomplish that they will often seek relationship coaching.
With relationship coaching by Daphna Levy, a successful, thriving, and very happy relationship can become a reality. Contact us today for more information about how we can help you!